Letters: Our French neighbours seem too distant

To the Editor,

Cynthia Spillman’s response to the ‘problem’ of not being invited to neighbours’ houses struck a chord. 

We, too, have lived here for many years but have only once been invited over to a neighbour for a drink.

When we arrived we introduced ourselves to all the immediate neighbours, asking them to come to us for a drink and get to know us – all accepted.

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But – other than a "Bonjour" if we see one or the other – silence.

We both speak French – my husband actually taught French. We shop at local shops, eat out at local restaurants. 

I have been quite ill for over six months now and not one person has asked how I am in spite of nurses', doctors’ and ambulance visits to our house.

We have got to the stage of shrugging our shoulders, saying "so be it" and simply being polite and friendly should we meet anyone.

Rosemarie Palliser, by email

Do you have any tips on integrating into a community in France? Do people expect too much from their neighbours? Let us know  what you think at letters@connexionfrance.com